In today's modern and rapidly changing world, we ourselves seem to be changing faster than we could have imagined. How do you find your place in a new world, especially if you have recently moved and may be moving again soon?
We've found some working tips for you from the psychologists:
Set realistic expectations
You really want to have a samovar with rusks again, a crowd of family and friends for the holidays and heart-to-heart conversations over tea. But it's possible that this will no longer be the case. Or maybe it will, but not now. You've moved, which means everything has changed. That's what you came for, to change everything. Open yourself up to new things, including loneliness. Try to observe your life in a somewhat detached way, like a character in a movie. Here he's moved, but his friends have stayed. Moving is definitely an occasion for personal growth. An opportunity to think about the past life, to read those books that were always lacking time, to take all the bought and abandoned courses, just to look deep inside yourself. The main thing to remember is that this loneliness is temporary, it's not forever.
Keeping the bridges
Keeping in touch is not a bridge, but rather a thin thread. But find the strength to call, congratulate on your birthday or write to someone who has stayed far away or moved, like you, but only in another country. A few minutes of conversation and you will be convinced that you are not so lonely. There are family and friends, they're just far away right now.
Needing help
There are those who need someone's free help. There are several charitable organizations in Cyprus and they always welcome new people. For example, there are waste collection companies, communities that help refugees and low-income families, dog shelters that ask for pets to be walked. You can sign up for a trash collection event and find interesting and caring people who often come with children.
Keep up with your social networks
Also subscribe to people who live in Cyprus. Write who you are and what you are into, find interesting bloggers on social networks and see what events they attend, comment on interesting posts, get to know each other online. There are several Cypriot publics on Instagram, Telegram, and Facebook that write announcements of future events. I've seen a few people who have written that they have recently moved to Cyprus and want to find friends, post here. And even run such advertising.
Take up sport
Firstly, sport is a contribution to your activity and health, and secondly, as a rule, people "on sport" are positive and open to new acquaintances. In Cyprus you can run and walk all year round. To make acquaintances, try enrolling in a dance or yoga class. There are also many group sports for all ages: basketball, volleyball, rowing, yachting and one of the most beautiful and sociable - hiking. These are hikes through the mountains, after which there are usually snacks and conversations about life. You only need to hike once to get to know each other, but to become friends you need to hike regularly.
Expand your interests
Making new friends is easiest if your interests are the same. Whether it's painting, soap making, or developing your own crypto business. You can find associates in every field. It's especially good to go to meetups or lectures followed by networking. A great place to make new acquaintances is intellectual quizzes, which are very popular now in Cyprus. There are also several Russian-speaking business clubs where entrepreneurs get acquainted. An excellent and working idea - sign up for a book club. It's great if you are a specialist in some area and can organize an interesting master class yourself. There are venues where you can rent space for different events. You can organize a brunch with sweets and conversation.
From the Cypriot government, there are free classes for visitors to learn Greek. Enrollment is usually in September. The groups are large at 25 people, so you won't get bored. There are also free courses in pottery, cooking, pilates and more. Since I myself also moved many times, as well as moved a huge number of my friends, working advice: look at your neighbors. Decorate your flowerbed, feed your cats, say hello, say hello, say hello on holidays. A good relationship with your neighbors is very, very valuable.
Do not chase the quantity
Psychologists believe that in fact, the number of friends is not so important. What matters is how suitable they are for you. The main thing is the quality of relationships with people, it affects the feeling of happiness and satisfaction with life. It may be enough for you to have strong relationships with your family and one friend, get along with your coworkers and maintain polite conversation when necessary. Or perhaps you want to pause at this stage of life and if that's what you feel comfortable with, fine. After all, it's better to have one but good friend than to gather a crowd of acquaintances you don't have the time or energy for.
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